We live in a world where we’ve been raised to put others first and silence our own needs. Self-love is crucial for self-development, self-exploration, confidence development, and self-esteem. It is the foundation for who we are, yet setting aside time for self-love often causes feeling of guilt. We know we need to practice self-love, yet we have difficulty give ourselves permission to experience it.
The self-love revolution is gaining momentum, yet we find trouble in doing the work. It's difficult because it goes against everything we were raised to believe. We learned to put others before ourselves. We learned the importance of success. We learned to go on a journey working hard and making money, but we didn’t learn how to keep ourselves fueled for that journey. We were never taught self-love in school, and most of us didn’t have self-love modeled at home.
Everything in life is built upon the foundation you build within yourself. The power of self-love magically makes life easier. Health improves. Relationships improve. Life begins to feel extraordinarily good. When you begin to love yourself, you will recognize and prioritize your needs, gain a true sense of self, set loving boundaries, prevent self-sabotage, rid of the victim mentality, give without feeling depleted, and find unique happiness.
In order to create a loving relationship with yourself, you’ll have to recognize your needs and desires without judgement. Self-love is about identifying and prioritizing your needs to do what feels right for you.
Self-love motivates you to take care of your own needs. With a consistent self-love practice, you’ll learn to give to yourself, and in return you’ll gain a solidified sense of who you are.
As your self-love grows, so will your ability to identify what is and is not good for you. The more you love yourself, the less you’ll tolerate being loved any less. Your standards of how others treat you will rise. Self-love helps you gain the clarity you need to understand what to accept and claim in life.
Self-love helps take accountability, take ownership, and intentionally choosing how you show up in this world. Ownership is empowering.
You cannot give love to others if you do not have love for yourself. When you give others love without loving yourself, you are pouring from an empty cup, depleting the tank. This leads to a feeling of depletion, emptiness, exhaustion, and loneliness. In order to bring energy to relationships and truly help others in a satisfactory way, your cup must be overflowing to give to others.
Self-love is not selfish; self-love is necessary to live life to your fullest potential. Self-love is about connecting to your needs, celebrating the life you live, and honoring who you are.